Think of the conversation you don't have, the people you don't meet, the decision you don't make in order to avoid discomfort, rejection and humiliation.
Many people habitually hold themselves back and then complain about how boring life is or how success emulate them. Many people choose the same course repeatedly even though it has proven not to bring the result they crave.
When we do this, we reinforce an old identify formed by our past, even if that identity is painful. If we were taught that we couldn't have what we want, we continue to live in accordance with that old beliefs, that old self identity. We're unable to explore and open up to more of who we are really as a human beings. In an economic sense, it means that we don't take calculated and informed risks. Fear stifles exploration on many fronts.
But the fear of change is irrational. As you already know, change is inevitable. It's basic tenet of life without change, the world would cease, life would end. They would be no point to existence. We are all meant to change, to move out of our comfort zones and experience the diversity of life. This is the only way to grow, to become the optimal human being.
Life is richer when we learn to walk into the unknown. When we learn to do this, we build our personal power, - the power to make changes, not simply to respond them. Of course, this means that we have to prepare for failure, rejection or embarrassment.
But why do we let these terms scare us? Will they kill us or impair us in some permanent ways? NO. Successful people have learnt that failure and rejection are nothing. What are failure and rejection compared to gaining new wisdom, experiencing new adventures, making new friends, and achieving greater success and happiness?
People often view the unknown as holding negatives and upsets. So they keep away from it. As a result, they never find out the unknown can also be rich, exhilarating and creative.
So if you want to move forward in your life, begin by choosing to challenge yourself in an area of your life in which you would like to seek change. Notice what stops you from moving forward, anything that derails your commitment. Find the support needed to navigate the new territory, and transform your fear into power.
You dare to conquer your fear? Successful people have their fears, but they conquer them instead of letting fear to stop them. Unsuccessful people let fear stop them..My greatest fear is rejection. How about yours?
Last month, I went for my phuket training. this is one section on letting go of our fears. We actually lighted up the white lantern and wrote down the fears or worries we have on the lantern and let it raise up in the air, to say bye bye to our fears..I felt that it is quite funny because I realised I have so much fears. *Laugh*
Many people habitually hold themselves back and then complain about how boring life is or how success emulate them. Many people choose the same course repeatedly even though it has proven not to bring the result they crave.
When we do this, we reinforce an old identify formed by our past, even if that identity is painful. If we were taught that we couldn't have what we want, we continue to live in accordance with that old beliefs, that old self identity. We're unable to explore and open up to more of who we are really as a human beings. In an economic sense, it means that we don't take calculated and informed risks. Fear stifles exploration on many fronts.
But the fear of change is irrational. As you already know, change is inevitable. It's basic tenet of life without change, the world would cease, life would end. They would be no point to existence. We are all meant to change, to move out of our comfort zones and experience the diversity of life. This is the only way to grow, to become the optimal human being.
Life is richer when we learn to walk into the unknown. When we learn to do this, we build our personal power, - the power to make changes, not simply to respond them. Of course, this means that we have to prepare for failure, rejection or embarrassment.
But why do we let these terms scare us? Will they kill us or impair us in some permanent ways? NO. Successful people have learnt that failure and rejection are nothing. What are failure and rejection compared to gaining new wisdom, experiencing new adventures, making new friends, and achieving greater success and happiness?
People often view the unknown as holding negatives and upsets. So they keep away from it. As a result, they never find out the unknown can also be rich, exhilarating and creative.
So if you want to move forward in your life, begin by choosing to challenge yourself in an area of your life in which you would like to seek change. Notice what stops you from moving forward, anything that derails your commitment. Find the support needed to navigate the new territory, and transform your fear into power.
You dare to conquer your fear? Successful people have their fears, but they conquer them instead of letting fear to stop them. Unsuccessful people let fear stop them..My greatest fear is rejection. How about yours?
Last month, I went for my phuket training. this is one section on letting go of our fears. We actually lighted up the white lantern and wrote down the fears or worries we have on the lantern and let it raise up in the air, to say bye bye to our fears..I felt that it is quite funny because I realised I have so much fears. *Laugh*
don't worry, you are not alone. let's overcome it together! =)
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