My Slice of Life : Be Accountable

Today A Slice of Life is On Be Accountable.

When we are dealing with stressful situation, it's easy to tell ourselves, that its not our fault these things are happening to us. It is easy to complain how tough life is and retreat into our shells, shutting the world.

But if we are not willing to accept responsibility for situation we find ourselves in, then we are playing the victim.

When you play out to be "victim", life happens to you.You feel that you have no control over your circumstances. You blame people, events, bad luck perhaps, for everything that seems to go wrong. And things don't get better, you start to imagine life somehow has all its odd stacked against you. The feeling is helplessness.

But this state is by no means accidental or coincidental. You are feeling this way by choice.

Think about an area of your life where you feel things aren't going the way you have hoped. Now ask yourself this. What action can I take now that puts control in my hands? One thing you can immediately to do is recognize that while certain unpleasant or frustrating things happen in life, you always have the ability to take matters into your own hands and create better circumstances.

Immediately you will feel the frustration and stress ease, because you will realise that things do not have to stay the way they are. You can make changes and you can control the situation. You may not able to solve the problem immediately but there are step you can take to alleviate the pain, the stress, the suffering or whatever that slapping you around. With every small action, you come closer to making big changes to your situation.

We all fall victim behaviour from time to time. And sometimes, we stay stuck there longer than we would like to admit. When you recognize that you are in victim behaviour, ask yourself What can i do to change this situation and make it better? Then take action and take control.

Sometimes I wish to have more like have more increment, more bonus...can go on a long list of my wishing list. That why I admit that I sometime fall into victim trap especially at work. Yes it is true that it is easier to blame others at times, but it not good for us either..Have to shut up the little voice in us..Here are some little tricks that I learnt during the NAC in Singapore from a speaker, when you hear a little voice, put it on our palm and slap it and say out loud "Shut Up". It works for me...Have a nice weekend ahead.